The thing is, they are not acting creepy. You just aren’t attracted to them. An attractive man acting the *exact* same way is not called “creepy.”

So, this article is simply the flip side of a sentiment summed up in a bumper sticker “No Fat Chicks.” Somehow, I think you may have a different take on the social acceptance of women not deemed “worthy” – right?

I just can’t understand/relate to this article.

I hate cat calling from all men. Good looking or not.

Nope, you just don’t get it. Men perceived by most to be attractive/highly-eligible are often *extremely* creepy, because they don’t believe that any woman could say “no” to them and mean it. Indeed, a man who the woman might initially find very attractive can do/say something creepy and totally ruin what was up until that moment a promising flirtation.

Creepy is all about insisting on forcing an interaction when the other person doesn’t want it, and there’s nothing wrong with people not wanting an interaction for any reason at all. (Yes, this does mean that I think women can be creepy too.)

Creepiness is not strictly a “no fat chicks/dudes” policy. “Creepy” is the alarm that tells you that someone’s interest in you may become dangerous. Women have to constantly perceive life in terms of not getting raped, so detecting dangerous people is pretty important. People who act weird (getting too personal, not backing off, saying very alarming things, etc) are potentially dangerous, but instead of labeling such a person as a threat flat out, calling their behavior “creepy” gives them the benefit of the doubt that they just have the vibe of a creep. But the vibe is enough for a stranger to not want to have anything to do with you.

I get your point – I’m just saying an attractive man’s actions are categorized as flirting, cute, funny, etc…. while the same actions of an unattractive man is called “creepy.”

Speaking as a not-very-attractive guy, the word “creepy” does hurt.

I mean, you gotta work up the balls to go talk to a girl. Then when you do, she dismisses you as a potential rapist. It’s pretty tough.

When my husband slips a fifty from my wallet because I went to the bank yesterday and he didn’t, I categorise his actions as perfectly fine, yet if you were to do the same action to my wallet I would call you a “thief”.

“Same actions” is not the point. Whether there is a *reasonable expectation* of CONSENSUAL *interaction* is the point.

I think both sides would do good to try and see it from the other side’s perspective.

From the women’s perspective. I can see how it would get annoying. And at times possibly scary, depending on how aggressive some guy gets.

But you gotta work on seeing it from the male perspective. Getting called a creep for simply trying to make a human connection can be quite painful.