Drew Barrymore Doesn’t Want to Have it All
5:00 pm, April 7th | by Meredith Lepore
Oh the dreaded having it all conversation. Some women insist you can do it. Other ones want to retire the phrase completely. Some are still on the fence. But one woman who decided having it all may not be for her anymore is Drew Barrymore.
The 38 year old new mom, director, producer, wine maker and actress said at a Lucky Magazine conference last week:
“I was raised in that generation where it was all, ‘Women can have it all!’ and I don’t think you can. I think something falls off the table. The good thing is that the things that stay on the table become so much more important. You have to choose your battles. I can’t direct movies right now; I would miss out on my daughter (Olive, 6 months). And I worked so hard to get to that point in my life, but it was a clear choice. I just had to make it.
“Whatever it is — it could be a beauty line, a movie, a cookbook (I’ll get there one day, but not yet. No one wants to eat my food, trust me) — maintain a sense of humor! It gets so serious out there. I love a good fart joke!”
Sounds like Drew is taking the route of Gwyneth Paltrow and looking to become a homemaker/health guru and will soon be telling us all how delicious mungbean cookies are. But I do like that she has this realistic outlook. Motherhood tends to do that it sounds like. But the whole concept of having it all really needs to be rephrased or just eliminated because it is actually holding women back. No one asks men if they can have it all?
“A lot of women define Feminism as a woman’s ability and right to have it all. But Feminism is not about having it all or doing it all. Feminism is about the freedom to make choices. Somewhere along the path of the women’s liberation movement, we began to buy into the belief that to be an empowered women means we have to do everything that both men and women do. So instead of making choices, we have tried to fulfill both gender roles at the same time. And from my perspective, it’s not working. Instead of giving us a tremendous amount of freedom and opportunity, this concept of having it all has morphed into something that excuses putting so much on our plates that we are stressed out, burned out and running out of time for ourselves (and our loved ones) every single day.”
Even the great Gloria Steinem recently said, ““It’s impossible for women to have it all, if they have to do it all. It is ridiculous. We tried to kill [that saying] off for years. It blames the person instead of the structure.”
So thanks Drew for trying.