Newsflash: Reading ‘Fifty Shades’ Doesn’t Mean You’re Cheating On Your Husband
3:00 pm, June 8th | by Laura Donovan
There are plenty of reasons to pass on E.L. James’s highly praised “Fifty Shades” series: It’s not particularly well-written, it was inspired by the “Twilight” saga, and it puts in a positive light a man so controlling that he purchases the company for which his new girlfriend works just to have complete power over her. You can find faults with a lot in the books, but you cannot argue that reading them is equivalent to infidelity.
Yet Christian author Dannah Gresh seems to believe “Fifty Shades” is the same as “the other man,” writing in a new blog post, “According to Him, there is only one who should stimulate sexual desire in me: my husband. Since that’s God’s plan for my sexual desire, anything other than my husband creating arousal in me would be missing the mark of God’s intention.”
Citing Jesus Christ, she goes on the argue:
Jesus said it this way: “You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” The same is true of a woman looking at or reading about a man. Reason #1? I believe reading erotica is sinful.
That’s kind of like saying thinking about robbing a bank is just as bad as actually following through with it. In reality, it’s just a thought, and fantasizing about fictional character Christian Grey does not an unfaithful wife make. You can criticize “Fifty Shades” for many things, but not this. If you’re so turned on by Grey that you stop loving your husband, you’re in the wrong relationship to begin with. Lots of women have also claimed the books saved their marriages, and that counts for a lot more than having naughty thoughts about a guy who doesn’t even exist.