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I Believe Gabby Douglas’s Bullying Claims No Matter What Her Former Gym Member Says


Gold medalist Gabby Douglas may seem like she’s on top of the world now, but it wasn’t always that way. The teenager recently told Oprah Winfrey that she experienced racially-charged bullying at Virginia Beach’s Excalibur Gymnastics. Most people have been harassed at some point, especially if they stand out from the crowd (been there), so I never doubted she put up with a lot of nonsense from teammates. But a former gym member is arguing that the 16-year-old could be exaggerating what happened to her, leading me to believe that she was merely oblivious to the Olympic star’s taunting.

Douglas said this week that she was mistreated during her training days at Excalibur, once being called a “slave” by someone in the group:

“I would come home at night and just cry my eyes out … I was the only African-American at that gym. I definitely felt isolated. Why am I deserving this? Is it because I’m black? — those thoughts were going through my mind.”

This unfortunately doesn’t surprise me, as Douglas is young and school-aged folks can be rotten, exclusive, and incredibly mean, especially toward those who are a little bit different from everyone else. This kind of thing is also common in sports — I endured the same type of cattiness in fifth grade soccer, and the widespread viciousness is enough to bring a vulnerable child down. Almost as soon as Douglas talked about switching gyms as a result of teasing, however, a former gym member blasted the claims:

“This is absolutely ridiculous. I trained at Excalibur gymnastics for 8 years and I personally trained with gabby for 2 of those years. The accusations that are being made against the gymnasts and coaches are just sickening. I watched dena and Gustavo put so much of their time and effort into gabby and the other athletes, no matter their race. Gabby was never a victim, in fact many would say she was one of the favorites. I am not saying that she never felt bullied because when you are in a sport with a bunch of girls it is bond to happen. However, anything that she may have felt was never about race and I can assure you everyone at some point has felt bullied. I never once heard her complain about girls being mean, funny how it is just now coming up.”

Excalibur Gymnastic’s CEO is also irked about Douglas’s remarks, posing the question, “Is Gabrielle a credible person just because she is an Olympic Champion? She is not giving any names or dates, leading us to believe that the accusation is fake.” Really? Just because she may not have sought the help of adults doesn’t mean she wasn’t targeted at the gym. Perhaps she didn’t think they’d make a difference anyway. It wouldn’t be the first time grown-ups failed to stop kids from tormenting their peers.

Here’s the thing about bullying: sometimes people don’t remember that they once picked on others. They could believe they were nice to everybody while they actually made plenty of lives a living hell. I can recall almost every single individual who tried to tear me down in junior high and high school — from what each person said to the pitch of their laughter after hearing a cruel joke about me — but that doesn’t mean they remember all that they did in youth. Bullies often underestimate how much of an impact they have on their victims, and bystanders, who also reportedly underestimate the seriousness of bullying, have no reason to keep every childhood memory filed in the front of their brains.

Besides, Douglas may very well have kept her mouth shut to mask her pain. I did it all the time as a youngun’, often feigning apathy when fellow soccer players said I had hideous hair or spread false rumors that I was poor. I pretended not to care but the swipes stung nonetheless, and obviously I haven’t forgotten about the absurd things a pack of 10-year-olds once said to me. We’re told to ignore bullies so they don’t see they have any power over us, and I trust that Douglas was attempting to veil her struggles while all this was going on. Just because two people cannot attest to Douglas’s harassment doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. I take Douglas’s word over that of a potentially bitter former team member and business manager wanting to maintain a positive image.

[Jezebel]

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  • Anonymous

    This young lady is a dynamo. I am very proud of what she accomplished and I don’t have any reason to believe that her story isn’t true (wasn’t there – can’t say) but the story we heard throughout the olympics wasn’t that she switched gyms because she was bullied but because she wanted to train with Shawn Johnson’s coach because he was the one who could “take her to the national championship/olympics”. Why has the story changed?

  • http://twitter.com/LauraDonovanUA Laura Donovan

    Maybe there were multiple reasons?

  • Adam R. Charpentier

    Maybe, but I take everything with a grain of salt that includes the participation of Oprah Winfrey and woe is me from celebrities is a bitter pill to swallow under any circumstances.

  • Adam R. Charpentier

    As for making allegations late in the game, I have trouble with the preconceived notion that anyone is guilty of anything without proof and believe that sometimes people want to extend their fifteen minutes of fame. All of that coupled together and I doubts…but, hey, at least they’re not talking about her hair anymore.

  • http://twitter.com/LauraDonovanUA Laura Donovan

    I believe her bullying stories are true. Everyone is made fun of at some point, and she was at the age when it’s pretty common.

  • Adam R. Charpentier

    I believe that it will not thunderstorm this evening despite what the weather folks said this morning since the sky is sunny and cloudless, so I’m planning on heading to the lake in a few hours…everyone’s entitled to beliefs based on commonalities rather than evidence, but that isn’t proof. Either way, she’ll be in the news a little longer, so that’s nice.

  • http://twitter.com/alanduda alan duda

    it is bond, james bond, to happen.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Raymond-Davis/100002330117264 Raymond Davis

    Was she bullied into living with a white family while she was in training for the olympics..??

  • http://twitter.com/lekass Lauren

    You know, no one questions it when someone like Taylor Swift goes on about how bullied she was in school. Why are they doing it so quickly to Gabby?

    Also. “She is not giving any names or dates, leading us to believe that the accusation is fake.” Did it ever occur to him that maybe she doesn’t want to call out specific people? That doesn’t make it fake, that just means that she isn’t trying to blame a specific event and is trying to talk about the experience as a whole.

  • http://twitter.com/LauraDonovanUA Laura Donovan

    seriously!

  • Anonymous

    I believe her claims are exaggerated no matter what she says. Claims like this nearly always are.

  • Anonymous

    She was bullied for being a dynamo. She was discriminated against for being a dynamo.

  • Anonymous

    Yeah, how many consumate liars has Oprah aided and abetted? She even helped expose the hoax of the Holocaust when she had “survivors” on there caught telling lies. For that, she performed a service, albeit unwittingly.

  • Anonymous

    People believed this person, too.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ai-RW1ozL2o

  • Adam R. Charpentier

    I assume that people bullied Taylor Swift because she was a snob and a gossip based on her songs, which are mostly about how she’s this young pure virgin snow and how awful men have been to her in various relationships…and, recently, she was asked NOT to attend a wedding since she would inevitably take the limelight away from the bride and she showed anyway. When the mother of the bride met her at the door to turn her away, she ignored her…or so the mother of the bride claims.

  • Adam R. Charpentier

    I never assume anyone is a liar unless they have a track history…however, I never assume that victims are always that…why instantly assume that the gym is full of bullies and liars? I try to keep my biases to a minimum when I don’t personally know the participants.

  • Adam R. Charpentier

    I hope you’re kidding.

  • Anonymous

    Kidding?

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w6kjMyLMerc

    I think there is a proverb about people dying of ignorance. Take care.

  • Adam R. Charpentier

    There was a Holocaust. It happened. Saying otherwise makes you unspeakably stupid and makes me pine for the day ahead when (with any luck) they (scientists, Santa Claus, or Jesus, I don’t care who) invent a peer-to-peer USB compatible strangulation device.

  • Adam R. Charpentier

    It occasionally, though not always, disturbs me when accusations are called facts by the media because I typically consider manipulating consumers through belief rather than with logic or data to be a tactic of the enemy of common sense, a contributing factor to the degradation of society, and akin to a witch hunt…accusations of any serious nature should be dealt with seriously and not with hot-headedness.

    The flipside to my ideology is that most jailable offenses (once guilt has been proven) should be punishable by execution. Prisons are expensive and the larger majority of murderers, rapists, and peddlers don’t deserve to breathe our air.

  • http://twitter.com/LauraDonovanUA Laura Donovan

    I don’t think she’s a snob at all. If anything her idiot boyfriend was to blame for bringing her to a wedding to which they weren’t welcome. He should take the fall for that. People made fun of her in school because she was artistic and different, not because she was a snob. She was just kind of a weird girl. I went through the same thing. Plus, kids are bullied for everything these days. No one needs a legitimate reason to harass another.

  • Adam R. Charpentier

    Well, her marketing team has built the image around her that she is “artistic and different” but her music isn’t those things at all and if she was such a weird bullied girl, then I’d like to know where she met the devil she sold her soul for good looks, a sweet voice, and enough charisma to make her marketable enough for a fanbase. Pitying successful pretty people is bonkers.

  • Benny

    All the girl did was sharing a bit of her story without naming names to avoid embarrassing people.All she did was talk a little about what she went through personally.

    And look at the reaction….or just look at this thread,for crissake.

    That girl is kind of an American Hero now and she has a shiny future ahead of her,she doesn’t care anymore about that stuff….why would she make that up,why would she lie or exaggerate,you morons?What does she have to gain,exactly?Getting bashed for it?

    People are so stupid and bitter it makes my brain hurt sometimes,seriously.I’m in pain.

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/F6WDMXYFH6S5NTOYGNP6WPXGFA Sarah

    “They” meaning who? Women? Olympians? Black people? She felt victimized, who cares if other people don’t see it the same way?

  • Benny

    You’re a dumbass.

  • http://twitter.com/LauraDonovanUA Laura Donovan

    You can be both weird and charming. Maybe she was awkward as a kid and grew into herself. Even so, feelings of insecurities don’t just go away. She may still feel like the school reject she was many years ago. that said i dont believe in pitying just anyone either

  • Adam R. Charpentier

    “You can be both weird and charming.” Thank you. :D

    Kidding. I admit to using the wrong word…pitying her isn’t the same as empathizing with her story and I can do the latter, so I agree with you that her story is plausible…

    I just question the motivation behind telling a story without any proof behind it. People don’t need a good reason to bully, though sometimes they have reasons, but they don’t need a good reason to lie, either. I try to play devil’s advocate whenever there’s an uproar over basic human rights violations and no proof at all that they’ve occurred. People sometimes act too quickly to form a lynch mob.

  • Anonymous

    “feel” It is a slippery slope from that to imagining one feels some way. WANTING to feel that way….because there is benefit in it.

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/F6WDMXYFH6S5NTOYGNP6WPXGFA Sarah

    I’m so glad we have our very own Gabby Douglas mind reader here to give us his expert opinion!

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