John Mayer Should Have Taken Responsibility Rather Than Trashed Taylor Swift
6:15 pm, June 6th | by Laura Donovan
They say time heals all wounds. Even if that’s true, singer John Mayer is going to need even more time than two years to get over the pain ex-flame Taylor Swift put him through by allegedly basing revenge break-up tune, “Dear John” on him.
Mayer, who dated Swift after the two did a duet in 2009, told Rolling Stone he was “humiliated” to learn that she penned a song about him and wrote that he should have known better than to screw around with the emotions of a girl twelve years his junior.
“It made me feel terrible,” Mayer, who was ripped apart for some racially charged, offensive, and insensitive comments he made two years ago, said. “Because I didn’t deserve it. I’m pretty good at taking accountability now, and I never did anything to deserve that. It was a really lousy thing for her to do.”
Way to show some self-awareness in the aftermath. Though he had a right to feel betrayed that Swift did not warn him about “Dear John” prior to its release, he should have acknowledged that there are two sides to every story. The reality is that Swift was 19 and he was in his early thirties during their short-lived fling. Yet in response to Swift’s song lyric, “Don’t you think I was too young to be messed with?” Mayer told the publication, “I don’t want to go into that.” Because it’s so much easier to justify breaking a teenager’s heart by basically saying, “Well, now she learned a valuable lesson about dating older dudes. She’ll thank me one day.” If he didn’t care about crushing a girl much younger than he, Mayer should have at least anticipated her reaction. Not all of us are made of stone and able to move on immediately. Heartbreak can seem like the end of the world to teenagers, so it’s not a shock that the letdown had a long-lasting effect on Swift.
Mayer seemed to find fault with Swift’s victimization, but he fell under the same trap in his chat with the magazine when he said, “I was really caught off-guard, and it really humiliated me at a time when I’d already been dressed down. I mean, how would you feel if, at the lowest you’ve ever been, someone kicked you even lower?”
Yes, such a situation is terrible. Just months after he said his “dick is sort of like a white supremacist,” Swift passive aggressively smeared him on her album, seemingly acting as the string that broke the camel’s back. Given everything else he got flak for in 2010, it’s a wonder he became so worked up over Swift’s music though, especially since what she did to him was far less atrocious than the ignorant remarks he made about the prospect of sleeping with black women and Jessica Simpson’s abilities in bed.
It seems to me that it’s just easier for him to point a finger at his former girlfriend and call her lyrics “cheap” than own up to more of his flaws or mistakes. Be the bigger person and let the past go rather than hurl stones at a much younger girl who felt you wronged her.