Read of the Day: “Why Do Men Keep Putting Me in the Girlfriend-Zone?”
5:30 pm, May 20th | by Colette McIntyre
So we can all agree that the friend-zone isn’t real, right? Some “Nice Guy” complaining about how he got “friend-zoned” by a girl — because heaven knows that if a dude spends any time with a lady and does her the minium kindness like opens a door or doesn’t try to assault her, he deserves to get the sex — is pretty much the most obnoxious thing in the world but it continues happen, especially in the Internet’s darkest corners. If you hate the term “friend-zone” as much as I do, you’ll take great pleasure in this brilliant satire of the whole argument by Tumblr user literaryreference.
You know how it is, right, ladies? You know a guy for a while. You hang out with him. You do fun things with him—play video games, watch movies, go hiking, go to concerts. You invite him to your parties. You listen to his problems. You do all this because you think he wants to be your friend.
But then, then comes the fateful moment where you find out that all this time, he’s only seen you as a potential girlfriend. And then if you turn him down, he may never speak to you again. This has happened to me time after time: I hit it off with a guy, and, for all that I’ve been burned in the past, I start to think that this one might actually care about me as a person. And then he asks me on a date.
I tell him how much I enjoy his company, how much I value his friendship. I tell him that I really want to be his friend and to continue hanging out with him and talking about our favorite books or exploring new restaurants or making fun of avant-garde theatre productions. But he rejects me. He doesn’t answer my calls or e-mails; if we’d been making plans to do something before this fateful incident, these plans mysteriously fail to materialize. (This is why I never did get around to seeing the Hunger Games movie. Not to name any names, but thanks a lot, Tom.) Later, when I run into him at social events, our conversations are awkward and lukewarm. This is because the moment we met, he put me in the girlfriend-zone, and now he can’t see me as friend material.
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