Sheryl Sandberg To Women: “If You Can Marry A Woman, That’s Better”
9:38 am, April 9th | by Laura Donovan
In a society where half of marriages end in divorce, tying the knot can be an intimidating concept, so Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg advises women to choose wisely when selecting a life partner. Finding someone supportive of your ambition and willing to assist with household duties is vital, but settling down with a woman might even be preferable since the work at home will be more even, according to Sandberg.
“The most important thing — and I’ve said it a hundred times and I’ll say it a hundred times — if you marry a man, marry the right one,” Sandberg said in a new video for the Makers series by PBS and AOL. “If you can marry a woman, that’s better because the split between two women in the home is pretty even, the data shows.”
But it’s not that simple (aside from the fact that marrying a woman isn’t really an “opt-in” choice kind of thing). Sandberg argues that women deal with two problems that men never face. Women feel guilty about working a lot and are also less liked the more they succeed.
“I feel guilty when my son says, ‘Mommy, put down the BlackBerry, talk to me’ and that happens far too much. I think all women feel guilty. I think what’s interesting is I don’t know many men who feel guilty,” Sandberg said. “I don’t know a lot of men who feel guilty for working full time, it’s expected that they’ll work full time…I wonder if there were more shared responsibility if more men would feel guilty too and women would feel less of it.”
The guilt will always be lingering, though, especially for those who try to juggle a million things and spread themselves too thin. The good news is that the nerdier a woman is, the better she will fare in the real world. Sandberg, who was voted “most likely to succeed” in high school, says she asked the editor to make the title hard to find and select another person for the accolade. Being a geek back then paid off, though:
“I want to tell any young girl out there who’s a geek, I was a really serious geek in high school,” Sandberg said. “It works out. Study harder.”
Now that she’s a multi-millionaire, I think it’s safe to say it worked out well.